# Humbling yourself, honoring others—a guide to honorific speech in Japanese > Japanese keigo giving you trouble? Here’s a brief overview of the honorific and humble forms of keigo, what they mean, and how you can make sure you’re being polite! **URL:** https://migaku.com/blog/japanese/introduction-to-keigo **Last Updated:** 2025-09-15 **Tags:** culture, grammar --- When you first started learning Japanese, you likely learned words and phrases using the desu / masu (-です /-ます ) form. Your teacher may have told you that this was the "polite" way of speaking. But like a lot in Japanese, it goes much deeper than that. > Japanese honorific speech—called keigo (敬語 )—is a reflection of Japanese social values: respect, humility, and showing thoughtfulness to others. Keigo can feel intimidating to learners. There are multiple levels of politeness, all with new polite humble/honorific versions of some normal words, and cultural rules that aren’t always obvious from a grammar textbook. But the truth is, keigo isn't just about sounding “fancy” or “formal”; it's a window into how Japanese society operates. Let’s explore how keigo helps you speak humbly of yourself and honor others! --- ## What is keigo? Keigo often gets lumped into “formal” or “polite” speech, but it’s more nuanced than that. At its heart, keigo is about showing respect—either to the person you're talking to, or the person you're talking about. It’s not a single thing, but rather an umbrella term for three different primary types of respectful speech: - Teineigo (丁寧語 ): The basic polite form. It’s what you learn first—those desu/masu (-です/-ます) endings you know and love are all teineigo. - Sonkeigo (尊敬語 ): Respectful or "exalting" language. This kind of language elevates the status of the person you are talking to (or about). - Kenjōgo (謙譲語 ): Humble or "lowering" language. This kind of language lowers your own status in relation to the person you are talking to. This is unfortunately just a starting point—there are a few other categories of speech (like the dictionary form) and some of these categories can be combined (you can be honorific and polite at the same time)—but, so long as you know these three levels and when to use them, you’ll be well on your way to understanding the rest. ### ... But what if I don't want to show respect? If you speak pretty casually in your native language, the idea of speaking politely and formally in Japanese might be a bit off-putting. Can't you just speak casually in Japanese, too? Well, unfortunately, no. You see, keigo is not *just* about being polite—it’s about understanding the context and background of a social interaction, and showing awareness of hierarchy and roles. Using respectful language to talk with someone doesn't actually mean you respect them: it just means you acknowledge that, given the situation, you are expected to talk this way. Here's an article that goes into more detail on how that works: [On the Notion of Wakimae](http://www.sachikoide.com/OntheNotionofWakimae.pdf). Generally speaking, though, Japanese people tend to be fairly forgiving of foreigners who get keigo wrong. All the same, keigo is more than a cultural quirk: knowing keigo is key to knowing Japanese. You can't speak properly without at least understanding it. Even if you don’t plan on meeting the Emperor anytime soon, it’s important to be able to talk with people in a manner appropriate given your relationship and the situation—and that's exactly what keigo is for. --- ## Being respectful vs. being polite Another common sticking point for beginners is the difference between being *respectful* and being *polite*—after all, these terms are quite interchangeable in English. In Japanese, though, there is a notable difference between them. - **Respectfulness** has to do with the status of you and the person you are talking to (or about). Regardless of how you personally feel about the person, you are simply using language that reflects the apparent power dynamics between you: that you are of equal or differing social statuses. - **Politeness** has more to do with how you see your relationship with the person you are talking to. You typically start off using polite language, but then, after you become friendly enough that such "airs" are no longer necessary, you drop the politeness. As such, casual language isn't necessarily impolite... but it can be perceived as impolite, as you are saying "I don't see you as someone I need to go out of my way to be polite with." This gives two basic dials you can play with in any particular sentence: - **Politeness**: no added politeness ←→ added politeness - **Respectfulness**: humble ←→ neutral ←→ respectful Different relationships and communication mediums tend to have different "defaults" on these spectrums: - Formal writing will often be neutral and non-polite - Conversations with strangers will often be neutral but polite - Customer service reps will speak politely, use humble language when talking about themselves, and use respectful language when talking about the customer—whereas the customer will use neutral language when speaking to the rep - You might talk with a colleague neutrally without any added politeness outside the izakaya (居酒屋 ), but be polite and maybe even respectful when in the office Long story short, using more formal language isn’t automatically more polite, and vice-versa. It's all about context. --- ## Teineigo (polite speech), Sonkeigo (honorific speech), and Kenjōgo (humble speech) Now let’s look at each type of keigo more closely and see how it functions in real communication. ### Teineigo (丁寧語), or the "polite form" of ordinary speech This is the default polite form you use when you’re not close to someone, like when speaking to a stranger, a teacher, or someone older. It shows a basic level of consideration, without suggesting too much about the context of the situation. If you’re not sure what level to use, 丁寧語 (teineigo) is a great place to start. #### Conjugating words politely If you’ve learned “-masu” and “-desu” (i.e., “行きます ” vs. “行く ”) forms, you're in luck! This is teineigo, and you've already started using it. If not, please refer to the below table. We won't be walking through how to conjugate words politely here, but you'll notice that the polite form of verbs ends in ~masu. | English | Dictionary Form | Polite Form | |----------|-----------------|--------------| | To see/To watch | 見る (みる) | 見ます (みます) | | To eat | 食べる (たべる) | 食べます (たべます) | | To drink | 飲む (のむ) | 飲みます (のみます) | | To go | 行く (いく) | 行きます (いきます) | | To teach | 教える (おしえる) | 教えます (おしえます) | ### Sonkeigo (尊敬語), or the "honorific form" of keigo When you want to show respect toward the person you're talking about, you use 尊敬語 (sonkeigo), or respectful language. This has the effect of elevating the listener's status in relation to your own. This goes a step beyond conjugating words like teineigo, and instead sonkeigo often changes the word completely. #### Conjugating words into their honorific form Sonkeigo starts easily enough: 1. Simply add お to the front of the verb stem 2. Add になる / になります to the end 3. Example: 待つ → verb stem is 待ち → preface with お = お待ち → follow up with になる = お待ちになる Alternatively, the れる/られる verb form doubles as an honorific form. | English | Dictionary Form | お~になる Form | 〜られる Form | |-------------|-----------------|-------------------------|------------------------| | write | 書く (かく) | お書きになる (おかきになる) | 書かれる (かかれる) | | read | 読む (よむ) | お読みになる (およみになる) | 読まれる (よまれる) | | wait | 待つ (まつ) | お待ちになる (おまちになる) | 待たれる (またれる) | | rest | 休む (やすむ) | お休みになる (おやすみになる) | 休まれる (やすまれる) | #### Words with sonkeigo doppelgangers Unfortunately, several of the most common words actually have an entirely separate respectful counterpart. In other words, you'll need to know a neutral word _and_ a respectful word. | English | Dictionary Form | Sonkeigo Counterpart | |-----------|-----------------|----------------------| | see/watch | 見る (みる) | ご覧になる (ごらんになる) | | eat/drink | 食べる (たべる) /飲む (のむ) | 召し上がる (めしあがる) | | go/come | 行く (いく) / 来る (くる) | いらっしゃる | | say | 言う (いう) | おっしゃる | Here's a quick example demonstrating the above: - 弟がそう言った。
My younger brother said it.
→ _Presumably, you don't need to be deferential when talking about your younger brother._ - 社長がそうおっしゃいました。
The company president said it.
→ _The president is a person who is high in status, so you use honorific speech when talking about them._ Each sentence means essentially the same thing—someone said something—but you use a different verb to reflect the status of the person who said the thing. ### Kenjōgo (謙譲語), or the "humble form" of keigo While sonkeigo raises the status of others, kenjōgo lowers your own status. #### What humble speech means You might think of humble speech as being modest. We don't really often use this language in English, so translations can look quite self-effacing—things like _my lowly self_—but it's entirely normal in Japanese. There are just times in Japanese where it's expected that you "step down" to highlight the higher status of the listener. #### Conjugating verbs into the humble form As with sonkeigo, kenjōgo conjugations start out pretty straightforward: 1. Simply add お to the front of the verb stem (or ご in front of a noun) 2. Add する / します to the end 3. Example: 連絡 (renraku) → this is a noun → preface with ご = ご連絡 → follow up with します = ご連絡します Then, する actually has a kenjōgo doppelganger: いたす（いたします）. As such, you'll also hear ご連絡いたします . It means exactly the same thing, but is a bit _more_ humble. You'll regularly see both the お〜します and お〜いたします variants. | English | Dictionary Form | お/ご〜します Form | お/ご〜いたします Form | |---------------|-----------------|-------------------|-----------------------| | To guide / To show | 案内する (あんない) | ご案内します | ご案内いたします | | To contact / To notify | 連絡する (れんらく) | ご連絡します | ご連絡いたします | | To explain | 説明する (せつめい) | ご説明します | ご説明いたします | | To plead / to request | 願う (ねがう) | お願いします | お願いいたします | | To help | 手伝う (てつだう) | お手伝いします | お手伝いいたします | #### Words with kenjōgo doppelgangers As with the sonkeigo examples above, there are several common words that have an entirely different humble counterpart. Again, this means that you'll have to know both the normal word _and_ the humble variant. | English | Dictionary Form | Humble Variant | |------------------|-----------------|-----------------| | To do | する | いたす | | To go / To come | 行く (いく) ・来る (くる) | 参る (まいる) | | To be / To exist | いる | おる | | To eat / To drink| 食べる (たべる) ・飲む (のむ) | いただく | | To see / To look | 見る (みる) | 拝見する (はいけんする) | > 💡 Insight 💡
By this point in your studies, you likely know that [you say いただきます before meals](/blog/japanese/itadakimasu-meaning). This is actually just plain old kenjōgo! You're saying something like "I humbly receive this food/drink." --- ## How to use keigo Rather than thinking of keigo as a strict set of rules, it might help to think about keigo as a set of options you choose based on social distance. If you're reading this article, you likely feel comfortable choosing whether you should speak casually or whether you should speak politely. The choice to use respectful or humble language is just another option you have on top of that. - **Kenjōgo** → If you’re speaking with someone you’re in service to, such as a customer or client in a business situation, you might speak humbly. - **Sonkeigo** → Meanwhile, if you’re speaking of someone in a higher position than you, such as the company president, or the dean of a school, you might speak respectfully. - **Teineigo** → For most other situations, or meeting people for the first time, you’re probably fine to stick to normal polite language. Another great tip is to pay close attention to those around you. - If you’re with a Japanese person who’s a similar age and position as you, and are meeting someone for the first time, what form does your Japanese friend use? When do they switch forms? _Do_ they switch between forms? - When you observe someone talking (perhaps in a TV show), consider the position of the people involved in a conversation. How does the situation and their status relative to each other affect how each one speaks? As with many things in Japanese, being a careful listener and observer is one of the best skills you can pick up. ## One word, multiple forms To really drive this home: when you use a polite, humble, or respectful word, you are really just using a different _form_ of a normal _word_. Check out the following table: | Level | Verb | Example | |----------------|------------|-------------------| | Dictionary Form | 言う | そう言った | | Teineigo | 言います | そう言いました | | Sonkeigo | おっしゃる | そうおっしゃいました | | Kenjōgo | 申す | そう申しました | All these words mean the same thing: “to say” or “So [they] said,” but the "feel" of each one is quite different. The words all mean the same thing, but they aren't interchangeable. You'd use each one in different circumstances, depending on the situation you find yourself in and who you are talking to. --- ## Keigo FAQs ファイト！ (Keep at it!) Let’s try to answer some of the most common questions beginners have about keigo before we wrap up. ### How do I know which form to use—respectful or humble? This is one of the biggest sources of confusion for learners. The key is to focus on who is doing the action. - If the other person (or someone you want to show respect to) is the subject of the verb, use sonkeigo. Example: 社長がいらっしゃいました。 (“The president came.”) - If you (or someone from your group) are the subject, and you want to speak humbly about your own actions, use kenjōgo. Example: 私が参りました。 (“I came.”) This may feel backwards at first—why do you use “better” verbs for other people and “lesser” ones for yourself? But it’s all about showing deference and humility, which are deeply valued in Japanese communication. ### Can keigo be too polite? Absolutely. In fact, this happens even among native speakers—especially when they overuse sonkeigo or string together layers of humble expressions to the point of sounding overly stiff or unnatural. Being “too polite” can make people feel awkward, distanced, or even subtly insulted—like you’re treating them as a customer instead of a peer. This is especially true in social settings or among people of equal status. So how do you strike a balance? - With strangers or superiors, err on the side of formality. - With peers or people younger than you, tone it down. Pay attention to what native speakers say in similar situations, in real-life scenarios like in business settings, or in media like casual drama dialogue. ### How do I learn keigo naturally without sounding robotic? Keigo isn’t just a grammar system—it’s a reflection of relationships. To use it naturally, you have to experience how it’s used organically. Try starting with some common set phrases, often used in daily life in Japan: - 少々お待ちください。
Please wait a moment
→ *You'll hear this whenever a clerk or customer service person goes to do something you've requested.* - いつもお世話になっております。
Thank you for your continued support.
→ *This is how you open basically any form of business communication with someone you've already interacted with—meetings, emails, conversations, and so forth.* - どうぞよろしくお願いいたします。
I appreciate your cooperation. / Thank you in advance.
→ You'll hear this at the end of self-introductions, when kicking projects off, and at the end of emails. Interactions that heavily feature keigo tend to be more “scripted” than other random conversations that come up in daily life, which are more on-the-fly in nature. An easy place to get started with keigo is to learn how business emails are structured and also to make note of the routine phrases used by clerks or service people. --- ## ... but what if I just want to learn Japanese? You _can_! Keigo is used in pretty specific situations, so, depending on how you use Japanese, you could very well get pretty far without ever stumbling into heavier-hitting keigo. But keigo is also just Japanese, and if you want to learn it, it's not bad. In our Migaku Japanese Academy course, we walk through all of the Keigo forms (in addition to about ~300 other basic grammar points.)

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_A sincere thank you for taking your valuable time to read this._